In Spanish, when we want to be formal or polite, there are several boxes we need to tick. But before we start with them, it's important to mention that this courteous way of approaching is gradually fading away (especially among the newer generations). Ot at least, it's not so widespread as it used to be.
Now we'll go through the key aspects (for beginners) of THE FORMAL TREATMENT in Spanish. Note as well that the following changes occur in the variety from Spain (I'll write another post about what changes in other varieties).
1. USTED (or USTEDES)
The pronoun USTED replaces TÚ and USTED replaces VOSOTROS.
Here, the singer addresses his lover in a polite way: USTED
2. VERBS
In English, when we say that a different person/subject does something, the verb doesn't normally change. It's the subject pronoun what changes (YOU buy; THEY buy). However, every time we conjugate* a verb in Spanish, this verb will adopt a different "shape" or "form" for each person (a feature that allow us to drop the pronoun if we want). For instance, we say compras (you buy) but compra (he buys), and we don't need the pronouns TÚ (you) and ÉL (he)
Therefore, in a normal context, when we address our listener, we use the form of the verb for the second person (either singular or plural, depending on how many people we are addressing): TÚ ERES ALTO (you are tall).
So what does it change when we want to be formal? Easy-peasy: we use the verb form for the third person (either singular or plural, depending on how many people we are addresing). Have a look at the pictures:
Pay attention to the form of the verb TRABAJAR |
And here some more examples. The first phrase is informal and the second changes to formal.
¿Cuántos años tienes (tú)? >>>>> ¿Cuántos años tiene (usted)?
¿De dónde sois (vosotros)? >>>>> ¿De dónde son (ustedes)?
It's as though in English, when you wanted to be polite you'd say "How old is you?".
3. OTHER CHANGES
This "polite movement" from the second person towards the third person also affects other pronouns and determiners. For this level, I just want you to focus on the possesives**.
The same shift we saw for verbs happens here. In Spanish, in an informal context, if I want to address my listener about "his house", I say "tu casa". However, if a want to be polite I'd say "su casa".
Other examples:
Tu perro es muy bonito >>>> Su perro es muy bonito
Tu casa es muy grande >>>> Su casa es muy grande
Recap for beginners |
4. WHEN DO WE USE IT?
Some protocol guides say that you need to use these forms when you talk to someone you don't know very well (it doesn't matter their age or social status). As I said before, younger people tend not to use them anymore, since we live in a world that values equality and some speakers think that these are means to separete people into hierarchies.
However, although nowadays you'd hardly ever hear someone using USTED when talking to a doctor or teacher, I think it's still a common use when you talk to the elderly.
It might all seem a little strange at first, addressing the person (or people) who is listening to you with the elements we normally use when we're talking ABOUT someonelse. Nevertheless, when you give it a second thought, everything makes sense. Let's see.
Any form of courtesy was probably originated when a poor John Doe had to address public figures or dignataries who were in a higher rung in social status than him, because in formal exchanges there is supposed to be a gap or distance between speakers. And these linguistic features try to dig into this social ditch. When we want to be polite or formal, we're just distancing ourselves from our listener, we're taking a detour to reach them.
And that's what we do when we use third-person verbs and determiners, we're taking the long route. Avoiding second-person elements, we're avoiding direct contact, thus keeping that "polite distance".
Remember this is only an introduction to the topic.
If you have any questions, please leave them below and I'll answer them ASAP.
*Conjugate: listing the forms of a verb. For instance, conjugate the present tense of the verbsHABLAR: yo hablo, tu hablas, él/ella/usted habla, nosotros hablamos, vosotros habláis, ellos hablan.
**Possesive: these are the words that go along with things in order to make sure everyone knows to whom they belong to. In English, "my, your, his, her, etc". For this post, it's important to remember MY in Spanish is MI; YOUR is TU; and HIS and HER turn into just one word SU.